What is love?  What is obsession?  What is care?  What is hurt?  What is hate?  What is possession?  What is insecurity?  What is confidence?

There are so many emotions in this world.  How many do you feel a day?  Which ones are warranted?  Which ones aren’t?  Which ones are healthy?  Which ones are toxic?  To be honest…I don’t know.  But what I do know is that I am flooded with emotions on a daily basis and a lot of the time I can’t figure out which ones I should act on.

Currently, I am hurt.  I am sad.  I am proud.  I am ashamed.  I am confident.  I am insecure.  I am angry.  I am okay.  It’s only 9am.  If you’ve been following my Facebook business page then you might be aware of some “drama” (as Facebook users like to call it).  A gorgeous model of mine has been receiving tons of negativity from her “loved” ones.  I will explain why I put loved ones in quotations in a moment.  But for now let me just say that this model is an adult.  She is beautiful.  She has overcome so many obstacles in life.  She is her own person.  She is one of the sweetest, funniest, coolest, girls I know.  When I say she is beautiful I can’t even tell you what that means.  She is the definition of flawless.  She is stunning.  Beautiful inside and out.

If you love someone…what does that mean?  I think it means supporting them.  I think it means seeing how beautiful they are and sharing it with the world.  I think it means being proud of the person they are.  It means building them up, caring for them, holding them, laughing with them, listening to them, and being happy for them.  If you love someone you put your wishes and your wants and needs second to what they need.  They come first.  The smile on THEIR face is more important to the feelings you have inside.  It means you do what it takes to be there for them.

Do you know the inner fears, wants, needs, cares, hurts, pains, accomplishments, and obstacles the people you “love” have been through?  You should.  If you truly love someone and think you know what is best for someone or what is right or wrong in their life.  You should know every single thing about them.  You should never judge another human being unless your conscience is completely clear.  Which of course it isn’t because we are all sinners.  What gives you the right to judge someone?  To take away what they have accomplished?  What gives you the right to think you own someone?  What makes you think you are better than someone else?  We all have opinions yes.  But they are just that.  Opinions.  Do not put someone else down because your opinion differs from what they want for their lives.

There are many things I do not agree with.  There are many things I see on social media that I do not sit well with me.  There are many things my friends and family are doing that are “wrong” in my eyes but I do not cast my judgement on them.  I am not God.  I do not pretend to know the answers.  If someone reaches out to me I try my best to help them any way that I can.  But I will NOT bring someone down and make them feel ashamed for who they are or for the decisions they make in life.  We are called to love one another.  To build each other up.

Why am I so distraught?  Because I am blessed to get to know women on a deeper level.  When they contact me they pour their hearts out to me.  Because I am a friend.  I listen to them.  I care for them.  They tell me their fears and insecurities.  We talk about life and love.  We talk about our relationships past and present.  I get to know their inner most secrets.  When we shoot boudoir it isn’t “taking half naked pictures.”  When a client shoots with me we are overcoming a lot of hurt, disappointment, self hate, insecurity, and shame.  It is such a huge obstacle for these women to rid themselves of all the pain they have been through.  To open their eyes and see their true beauty.  The beauty they were born with that was stripped away.

So for you to SHAME them for being proud of who they are is a disgrace.

End of Rant.

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